Life’s journey
Desert Experience
What’s your story?
If you opened this article, it means you got attracted to it. If you stay on it for 60 more seconds, you’ll be winning my heart.
I have no plans to waste your time, so I’d get straight to it.
Everyone has a story, including you — Growth they say, comes with a lot of goodbyes. Do you think that statement is true? Or is it just a made-up word?
Getting up and escaping the present to focus on the future even if it has to do with cutting off people, walking out of some friendships, making a choice to pursue something more significant to yourself, ignoring bonds from family ties or acquaintances who hold no proliferating benefit to your futuristic needs.
I’ll share a real story with you!
In 2022 I hit rock bottom, I won’t say I’m completely out of it anyway but I’m thriving — at least I’m more knowledgeable and better than I used to be. I got fed up with people putting me in a box or better said, I got tired of letting people choose a path for me, so I decided to switch things up — I knew I had to go on a journey of self-discovery.
I remember those nights I’d wake up late into the dark and stare at the sky from my window with lots of unanswerable questions on my mind. I often asked myself if I was on the right path, I asked if I was making a good decision cutting off friends. But then deep down, I felt the pull, the great urge for more — even though I had no idea how to go about it.
I got lost severally, started and stopped ideas because they didn’t feel right, and never implemented some ideas because I battled with the fear of failing which in the long run led me back to failure. I would often fantasize and visit Instagram pages to admire cars and houses and imagine and fantasize about good living even when I had no idea how to acquire one for myself.
I suffered emotional pain and imbalance all through the year 2022 — got depressed 2 times, contemplated suicide 2 times, cried severally, and at some point, I became abnormal — I practically got mad and displayed lunacy at some point because I lost my mind and I wasn’t even faking it, I just wanted answers.
How do I navigate life? What was my calling? What was I born to do? I didn’t want to live my entire life being a shadow of myself, what should I do? What was the way forward, I’ll ask — these questions led me to write an eBook titled Do You Really Know Yourself?
In my quest for answers, I realized that what most people who went through the pain of change don’t tell you is that the stage of life called Growth is one of the most confusing stages anyone could have in life. It comes with lots of confusion and sometimes leaves you even worse than you originally were if you’re not emotionally strong — Imagine cutting people off only to get hooked and alone in your world with no idea how to navigate.
I created an account on X in February 2023 just to accommodate my rants because the questions my mind processed were bigger than me. Even though I had no answers to these questions yet more questions came and the more questions I asked myself the more I got lost.
I got overwhelmed but somehow, I kept struggling to find my way. By now I had been introduced to working out and that’s something I’ll forever be grateful for because that was the best therapy I needed and got at that moment — so whenever my heart was troubled and it was late to take a walk, I’d pull gallons of water right at the center of my sitting room just to distract myself.
Truth be told, the journey to discovery is not easy and it’s not for the weak. I had to learn the hard way to focus on the little things first and leave out the bigger ones. Dreams and goals are good but getting lost in them is not good for the health. I had to create a habit of reading articles, telegram pages, and anything educative and potent enough to stop the unending questions in my head.
Life was taking me through a process, and it started by disconnecting me from people I didn’t need at that moment — it isolated me from the distracting noise of the public and the masses. I learned to be quiet, I learned to be a better problem solver, I learned how to kill negativity and got rid of most of my old habits even though I still struggle with a few, I learned how to read and interpret emotions, I learned just to be a better version of my old.
In July 2023, I joined Medium because Twitter wasn’t giving me enough room to rant and discuss everything on my mind and since I badly wanted to articulate my thought process, I had to pick on Medium — I’ve been thriving and growing ever since.
As much as it looks like I am not where I want to be yet, I live and enjoy the process — and believe me, I’ve not had this much peace and confidence all my life because, for the first time in my life, I feel and know I am doing something right.
Life has no template, but it has rules — rules that must be followed. However, to thrive and make a name for yourself in this confusing world, you need to find your route and fix the life you want for yourself because no one will do it for you and just so you know, there’s no escaping from the bad days. Both good and bad days make the experience called life.
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Cheers to growth!
